Bully Women and You Risk the Planet


By Barbara Kaufmann


Earth appears to be an accident of the cosmos. There is no other known planet where life exists and unfolds as biological live entities that are born of their own kind, live, breathe, move, evolve and are able to determine their future and the future of the world they inhabit and inherit.

Life comes with its own set of rules. In order to be born of your own species, there must be a unity of polarities—male and female—that unite as a zygote to produce a new biological being bearing the characteristics of both. Both polarities are necessary to reproduce a being inheriting characteristics of both parents, latent with unrealized potential and longevity, even glory. Each being is an opportunity for the planet to realize its current or future glory. Who has the authority to impede or interrupt that destiny that may ultimately benefit the whole planet, the whole race? Who dares?

What does it say about a species, and what are the consequences when half the population of that same species is not equally valued? Take humans, for example. Take Earth.

How does half the population of a planet occupy a position of inferiority? By what principle of nature is one gender inferior to another? What god devalues its own creations? How could the biological being that holds life within its own body, nourishes it with its own blood, nurtures it to birth and beyond, be less valued in the eyes of creation or the creator—by whatever name called?

How does it serve humankind for half its population to be alienated, violated, downtrodden or afraid? How does it move the species forward? To intellectual or emotional maturity? Progress? Evolution? Enlightenment? How is it acceptable for a full third of that alienated half to be vulnerable to attack and violence? How and when is the sovereignty of a being proclaimed by many scriptures throughout the world to be made in the image of a deity, subject to the whims and depraved proclivities of a fellow creature? How does such a creature, born in the image of its maker, exist solely for the entertainment or pleasure of another of its kind? Enslaving humans because of a characteristic like color or gender is the pastime of puny dictators trying to swell their importance in their own eyes.

How is it not hypocritical to partake of pleasures offered by prostitution and sexual slavery, or worse—rape, yet declare one’s mother, sister, wife or daughter off limits? It isn’t. It’s a double standard and it does not save one’s mother, sister, wife or daughter.

How is it permissible for a woman who is violated against her will or wishes, to be considered “soiled” or “deflowered” and therefore, subject to killing by a brother or male family member? How is the invasion of the sovereignty of her being against her will, her fault? How can a man rape knowing it is a death sentence for his victim? Would he wish that same fate upon his own daughter? How is the taking of a child bride against her will and not of her own choosing any different?

Slavery is a kind of depravity without forgiveness for it leaves blood on the hands of those who are powerful through an accident of birth or fate and partake of the benefits of enslavement. To willingly, with volition, partake in an act of depravity is to bind one’s own soul to slavery. Half the world’s population is subject to rules, written or not, official or not, that deprive them of inherent worth, dignity, democracy, equality and destiny.

When half the world’s population of live biological beings is devalued, what are the features of that prejudice, what are the long term consequences? The planet is designed to have characteristics of both polarities of being—male and female. The male impulse, called by one attending culture “yang,” gravitates toward analysis, reason, dry, heat, fire, the active principle, self-driven action and survival. The female impulse, in Chinese (and other) archetypal lore is prone to emotion, intuition, wetness, water, coolness, fecundity, earthiness, receptivity, and nurturing.

Humans are designed in like manner. A microcosm of the macrocosm.

When the principles are in balance in a being or within a planet, an ecosystem thrives. When they are out of balance, homeostasis, and even life can be threatened. As an example, too much yang can manifest in aggression, conflict, fighting and eventually war. Too much human focus on conflict and war to the exclusion of the more feminine or yin principles of life-giving and nurturing, can lead to the intent and obsession of constructing the most aggressive and destructive weapon ever invented—an atomic warhead (capable of destroying all life.) This is an example of yang gone too far.

An imbalance with too much yin threatens life and the planet just as dangerously for it would lack growth, invention, progress, continuation, and ultimately survival from a lack of action and forward thrust or movement.

Somewhere in the middle is Shangri-La, or Eden where the principles blend in equal measure and the polarities of the species human is utilized for the benefit, not detriment, of human and planetary life. The feminine principle, nurturance and the influence of women is important for the balance in that state of being.

It is the attitude of entitlement and the cavalier approach to the resources of the planet and their exploitation that has brought us to the brink of our own destruction. Masculine or patriarchal approaches to life and planet have led us to and left us with a legacy of war-making and conflict as a means of addressing every nuance of life. Apparently we don’t know how to rein ourselves in. By employing the more feminine approach of reverence and nurturance for birth, life and creation, the earth becomes more respected and the approach to it more reverent and evokes stewardship over ownership.

For the earth does not belong to us. “The Earth does not belong to man. Man belongs to the Earth. Man did not weave the web of life; he is merely a strand in it. Whatever happens to the web happens to man.” ~Chief Seattle. Seattle wondered how can you buy the sky, the land? How can you not treat a river like your brother when he quenches your thirst, carries your canoe, feeds your children? How can you think yourself separate from the perfumed flowers, the bear, the deer, the great eagle, the rocky crests, the dew in the meadow, the body heat of the pony? All of man belongs to the same family.

The desire to conquer, to pillage, to rule over another is yang run amok in the absence of yin. We see where this legacy has left us. A new dawn is long overdue. The old ways are not only unsustainable but to sustain them is to insure the destruction of the planet.

Humans need to bring things back into balance. They need to come into a state of solidarity and unity with respect to their own survival and that of the planet. The female, the feminine and the Indigenous can help ease the way back into a world of, and in, balance.

In order to restore that yin-yang balance and thrive, instead of just survive, we must give voice to those who not only understand but intuit the current state of affairs and feel the solution in their bones or give it back—to the woman, children, the Indigenous. We must learn to think in terms of wholeness—the planet and its inhabitants. Because we are one, we must begin to embrace that philosophy and live from that place amity not enmity. We must, once and for all, learn compassionate alliance with all life on this finite globe. There is no way to nurture birth, new being nor planet without a feminine hand. There isn’t a lot of time and there is nowhere else to go.

Barbara KaufmanAward- winning writer, poet, author and artist Barbara Kaufmann founded “Words and Violence,” an educational resource of more than 600 pages about bullying in its many forms—from the playground to media. Lifelong human and civil rights advocate, activist and peacemaker, script writer and filmmaker, she has written for Voices Education ProjectHuffington PostCharter for Compassion, magazines and journals, and is a founding case author for George Washington University School of Business.

 A former nurse and Respiratory Care Specialist, Residential Treatment Center Manager and ordained minister, she joined an initiative that deliberately paired her American city with a Russian city during the Cold War in order to make friends with the “enemy.” Impresario for the annual “Harmony” concerts raising awareness and funds for the work of citizen diplomacy and decommissioning weapons of mass destruction, her work is chronicled in Looking Back—an anthology by authors who lived the history. As a Sister City Officer for a decade, she wrote grants that partnered with USAID, the U.S. and Russian military, and the United Nations. One grant funded the social infrastructure to support and build a plant for decommissioning chemical weapons in Russia. She is a Charter for Compassion writer and leader—locally and globally—since its early beginnings. Her One Wordsmith website where she “writes to simply change the world,” is a celebration of humanitarian story.

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